11/18/2023 0 Comments Whats going on with instagram today![]() What is she doing with that man, when she could get anyone? Think of the men she could get, looking like that. If she’s interested in being friends with me, it must indicate that I am in the same league she is, because people generally are about as attractive as their friends, right? This is a thing? (Lol.) If I spend time with her, maybe the beautifulness will somehow catch. If I buy that shirt maybe I get to look like that? (Not how it works, but enough of us imagine it does, thus the phenomenon of beautiful women being hired to advertise clothing.) Why does she get to look like that, and I don’t? These have included, in no particular order: I think of my own response to seeing a gorgeous woman, and consider the full range of thoughts such encounters have, historically, inspired. But Christie is talking about the sort of women for whom good looks are a means to getting men. Obviously if the plain-looking woman is into women, she’d be capable of envy along with other responses. Is it hot to envy another woman’s looks? And I really do mean to envy them. An envy so profound and wistful it is almost sexually charged.” In literature, she argues, “Some of the most exquisite passages of eroticism are in the voice of women envious of other women.” We don’t get to be coy (or homophobic) the way straight men do when they claim they can’t begin to guess why Brad Pitt is considered attractive.Ĭhristie writes of “a precisely feminine pain I know well, worse than menstrual cramps. And then there was the Savage Lovecast threesome discussion, wherein someone was suggesting that a woman prone to jealousy-but who, despite not being into women, has agreed to invite one into the bedroom, I guess for her male partner-ought to make sure their third is plainer than she is.ĭo straight women get anything out of being around stunning women? Because we do know who they are. I’ve been giving more thought than usual to the beautiful woman question, both because I had reason to revisit Naomi Wolf (not, like, personally visit her), and because of book-stuff. I would be the very last person to assume that because a woman looks nice in her mid-20s she was similarly presentable at, say, 14. (“I’m looking good these days, perhaps because I’m finally well-loved, but that’s for another story.”) Instagram shows no one at their worst. Īnd it sounds as if Christie, the author of the essay in The Point, is, at least, a woman with experience of mid-ness. I can’t do much with the new sexual orientation and gender identity labels, being neither demisexual nor genderfluid, so let me have mid. I’ve spent enough time in the presence of spectacular-looking women to know that I am not that thing, and how wise of today’s youth to come up for a term for the thing I am. I have been called “butt-ugly” (by a preppy boy at summer camp when I was maybe 11) and told I possessed “pretty privilege” (I think this was the blogspot era, and that whoever said this had only seen pre-smartphone photos). ![]() Or maybe not! Things are confusing for us mids. I sort of think you have to be if you’re giving so much as a moment’s thought to not being beautiful-beautiful. ![]() It doesn’t seem incidental to the article BDM and I guess now I too am writing about that the writer is good-looking. It’s a terrible loop and I want nothing to do with it. But editors demand this, claiming that readers insist. Add in one additional line about how what you’re dealing with would be worse still if you were less privileged and that’s basically what articles are and have been for about 15 years. YES, a ban, forever, on the line about how according to science and the Pew Institute, whatever hyperpersonal thing you’ve got going on is universal. On the other hand, I do respect any essay that does not do the, to my mind, usually cowardly thing of digging up a study that can be plausibly interpreted to say you’re right according to science, or interviewing three people you crowdsourced on twitter, or whatever.
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